As far back as I can remember, I have never been a drinker. And I have my own reasons. We all have reasons to accepting drinks and politely turning them down. Either way, we are all individuals and are free to make our own decisions! Maybe your friend is a smoker and you are not. It’s not the end of the world; however, in certain seasons of our life peer pressure can make it seem that way.
“Hey, what can I get you to drink?”
“Umm… I will have bottled water,” I stated. Following this simple and short interaction, I knew questions were to follow. It didn’t really bother me; until their comments began to seem condescending like my worth was downgraded because I didn’t drink.
“Whaaaaat…you don’t drink?”
“I would NEVER come out to VEGAS or to any function if I couldn’t drink…. what’s the point?”
Of course, I would also get the sympathizers who applauded me. Saying “You didn’t drink? That’s good.. don’t start! It’s not all that it’s cracked up to be!”
I can even recall a time when I went to a friend of a friends birthday party. I didn’t know what to expect. I went with a few friends and their friend, who happened to be the son of a pastor.
I don’t think I felt so pressured in my life. He was persistent. He actually went and poured me a cup and said, “Just try it.” In that moment, I remember almost swaying my answer because he was a Christian. I thought to myself… well if he is doing it maybe it’s okay.
Before being pressured into changing my strong willed perspective, my friends jumped in and said, “No – she said she doesn’t want to drink.” Then reassuring me by saying: “You don’t have to drink.”
Reflecting back on this incident made me see that just because a person has a title or this persona, in front of his peers, doesn’t mean they are good role models. You have to be careful of who you allow in your inner circle.
The biggest issue is: No matter what the scenario, if you are opposed to doing something your friends (or the people around you) should respect your decision.
Here are a few reason why I will NEVER understand why people like to get drunk:
I Can’t Remember What Happened Last Night!
How many times have you had your friends or, even you, not even recall what went on the night before? It happens quite often. Far more than you think! Aaron White, a leading expert for Blackouts, conducted a study of “4,500 students about to enter their freshman year of college, Dr. White found 12 percent of males and females who drank in the previous two weeks experienced a blackout during that time.” Did you know that Blackouts happen when you are awake?
Sorry, But I Am NOT a Babysitter!
Going to the bathroom area; I always found myself in the middle of a situation. My friends would always happen to become the caretaker of the of age and underage girls, who were feeling the blues. Not my cup of tea! I should have been a bit more sympathetic; however, I felt this situation was just pathetic! This is the situation: you chose to drink, too much, and now I am having to help babysit you? How does this make any sense? However, I chose to change my mindset and spread love because that is what we are supposed to do.
Stumbling While Walking to Your Car!
I’m sure you have been a witness to the difficulties some people face trying to make it to their cars. In my head, I felt a sense of embarrassment on their behalf. As a women, we should want to present ourselves in a positive way. Of course, we learn as we grow older; however, some things can be avoided. If I were a guy, I would think there is nothing cute about a girl stumbling all over the place, being belligerent and throwing swear words all over the place.
What Happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas!
Have you been to Vegas before? Well, the scene isn’t as appeasing as MOST people consider it to be. There is just so much going on. Things we should never have to witness. Don’t get me wrong there is some fun and relaxation to be had; it just depends on what you’re into!
I went to Vegas with some friends to celebrate a birthday! It was fun. Dancing was an outlet – a stress reliever. It was spring break and that semester had been VERY intense. We all needed a mini “get away!” That evening we witnessed something that you would think would ONLY be part of a movie scene. But no, this was real life! An EMT entered through the front entrance. A few colleagues soon followed. I didn’t think too much of it at the time. I figured they may have just got off work!
A few moments pass by and soon enough I noticed the crowd split; making a narrow path way. A blonde and a brunette were being wheeled out the room. They were passed out. As the female EMT struggled to keep their heads from violently swaying from side to side, I couldn’t help thinking aren’t I glad I don’t drink! Who cares about what other people think! I have a brain of my own. Even if my opinion is different that doesn’t mean that it is wrong.
Oh, I Have to Have it to Function!
I’ve overheard individuals say: “Oh I can’t get on stage unless I am entirely wasted!” And some individuals turn to food to take their mind away from their lives. I am victim of overindulging in greasy foods when I am stressed. It used to be worst. I would turn into the drive thru line at 11PM on the dot to order some chill-fries. It became a problem. However, I’m learning to turn my addictive behavior into a more positive outlet. Eating greasy foods will only diminish my health and create a bigger problem in the future. I decided that if I am turning something into an idol; it’s not good for me.
I don’t want to go through life not having control over my decisions. If you need to get wasted to reach euphoria or shop to soothe your pain there is a far bigger issue going on internally. An issue that you need to work out. Anything that has that much control and power over my life should be released.
Have you been in the line of fire for not drinking? Have you ever questioned your decisions because you allowed peer pressure to sway your thoughts? How did you get over peer pressure?
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